Famous media personality and model, Toke Makinwa, has explained why she would have stayed and compromised in her marriage with her estranged husband, Maje Ayida.
She disclosed this during the latest episode of her podcast, TokeMoments, with guest Nollywood actress Iyabo Ojo, Makinwa, saying that she would have become ‘one of the women’ who stayed in marriage for their children if they had a child together.
She got married to fitness entrepreneur, Maje Ayida in 2014, but the marriage was dissolved in 2017.
She said, “Sometimes I feel a lot of women stay in unhealthy marriages for the children. For the longest, you hear so many women say things like, ‘the marriage is done but I only stay for my kids.’
“And I’m going to be honest here, if I have had a kid while I was married, I may have been one of those women. Because I also had the trauma of losing both parents at the age of 8. I was adopted, I have a great life which I’m thankful for but there were times that I wondered what life could have possibly been like if that didn’t happened.
“So, for the sake of my children, I may have had to compromise just because I wanted them to have mum and dad. I may have been one of these women. So, I’m not even judging anyone right here.”
Reacting, Ojo said she has a better understanding of life now and would have stayed in her marriage.
She said, “I was young at the time. If I was at this age, a lot of the decisions I took I probably would not have taken. Because now I’m wiser and have a better understanding of life.
“Now, I am more exposed and enlightened. But then I was coming from a place where I was already damaged as a child. You know when you come from a very wealthy home but you’ve to still raise yourself? Things like that.
“I didn’t grow up knowing my mum and dad. I was living with my dad, my grandmother, and his brothers. My grandmother was my mum to me. My dad was not like a dad; he was like a brother and friend. He was like an uncle because he enjoyed life too much and really didn’t have time to pay attention to me.
“Growing up in that kind of situation where I didn’t even know what they called ‘mummy’, I didn’t know I had a mother; I only knew my mum when I was about seven. My parents were never married; they just had my brother and me together” (sic).
